Sometimes I cannot believe I have a blog. I do not tweet or update my facebook status on the simple principle that no one honestly cares what I’m doing at every moment of my day. The blog serves a different purpose for me however, it’s more of an expression of my constant and racing thoughts. So even if I only get one view a day, I want to try to keep up with this endeavour for myself.
Anyways, I recently joined a twenty somethings transitional I don’t know what my future will hold but I really need you group at church. There were two new members this week who had the exact same thoughts as mine the previous week: I’m stuck at home with my parents and I need a community of people my own age, quick! Is it just our generation of the late eighties babies that are all moving home after college? And if so, why? Of course we can blame the economy, the dream job is not to be found and with the price of tuition rising, the student debt is rising, naturally leaving home as a great alternative. I must say it is an awkward transition to behold: dinner with your parents every night, chores, constant worrying from your mother…anyone who has done this will commiserate with me here. So do we just need to get kicked out of the nest or is there something deeper to address?
My sophomore year of college the pastor at Muncie Alliance Church challenged the students to retain their friendships post college by staying together, living close, and utilizing each other’s talents in their community. It would require sacrifice for some but the end result would take the deep bonds established over four years of living in the dormitories together and channel that energy to impact each other and a community. By encouraging one another and edifying the group they could have a greater force in their work and ministry. Of course as a sophomore this was idyllic and my friends were going to set out to do just that! But after senior year, reality sets in: some cannot afford to live on their own, some cannot find jobs, some want to go on to graduate school…Now after a year and a half, I wish I had listened more carefully to Guy’s advice and put more effort into the idea. I think from the outside this could sound weak and pathetic. After college you are supposed to fly from the nest on your own and plant yourself in unfamiliar territory to test your adult skills, see if you can make it. But what’s so wrong with needing people, finding comfort in familiar faces, and learning to grow with people who are there to support you.
I’m very pleased to be making new friends and finding a new community. But how many twenty something I still don’t know what’s next for me’s are out there feeling isolated? Many of us are in the same boat and I think my suggestion would be that it’s not weak to need friends, family, and community to pour into your new stage of life. In fact I think everyone’s soul desperately needs to be known and loved.